Saturday, 17 March 2012

Proper Manners and Habits


You can create happiness in family by being happy yourself. We are most happy when others are happy with us. To achieve this, you need to learn proper manners and develop good habits. The way we sit, talk and listen to others indicates our manners. An attitude of respect would get expressed if we sit properly without stretching our legs and reclining, while we are with elders. Again, while conversing, one should not talk loudly nor should one interrupt when elders, are talking. It is better to keep one’s voice low. To be soft spoken is a good quality.
As we grow older, we gradually learn what is meant by proper manners and what good habits are. As you have grown older, you have taught what your parents desire you to be and also get to know what is not desired and what you should not do. For example, honesty is desired, cruelty is not. Respect of elders is very much desired and selfishness is not liked at all. Modesty is desired, while immodesty behavior is disliked.
To make your home a happy home, you must learn what is expected of you by your elders and by the younger members of the family. The sooner you learn what is expected and desired by your elders, the easier it is to please them. And when you are loving and kind to younger members in the family, you can control them better. Sometimes, you may not like what your parents ask you to do, but it better to listen to them because they always wish you well and they are much wiser. Often, what looks unpleasant is really for your good.
We all are liked and loved by members of our family. But much of the happiness of all the members of the family depends on each one’s behavior. It depends in other words, on the way we behave towards younger and elder members of the family. In most families, which are more traditional than liberal, father is the final authority. It always helps to conform to the pattern of living observed by one’s family. In a family which is liberal in its living, children, younger or older are given equal freedom to make themselves heard. In such families, also one must learn how to exercise one’s freedom in giving opinion and advice. Family living may be traditional and authoritative or modern and liberal. However, respect for elders and consideration for the young is desired by all the families whether modern or traditional. It was said earlier that our wants and needs were cared for at home. Parents do their best to provide good food, proper clothes and other needed things. But children must understand the parents’ limitations. Sometimes father’s income may not be much to obtain all that you may want and so it is important to develop an understanding about the family income and its limitations. Often, it is that the older children understand the income limitations but younger children do not. They may start crying for everything which they are not able to get. By being a good example, you can make younger brothers and sisters understand that one cannot get everything that wants.
You can also help in creating happy family living by doing your share of work in the home. Often, in homes, unhappiness results when someone refuse to share things with each other, for example, radio, telephone, magazines and may playthings can be enjoyed by all if everyone is considerate and mindful of needs of others

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